Behavioural change - it’s something many people have to face in personal relationships, at work or with their friends. And frankly, it’s pretty uncomfortable. Name someone who actually confronts themself in the way they think and act on a daily basis, while enjoying every second of the self-confrontation… we’ll wait.
But, what if there’s a way to take behavioural change by the horns and use it to achieve your goals? That’s right, we’re talking about NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming. You’ve most likely heard of it, but do you know what it’s really about?
Hop on board as we take a trip inwards through the way we think and communicate to discover how NLP Coaching may be the key to drive personal and professional balance at work.
What on Earth is NLP Coaching?
Instead of racking our brains and reaching for Google, we at JA. have a secret source of NLP knowledge - our very own NLP Coach. She has helped many of our clients through our partnership-for-the-people initiative to help alleviate the pressure that the pandemic has placed so many employees under.
We welcomed Chére van der Linde from Canaan into our team to help us gain insights into the world of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
Firstly, many people have no clue what NLP is or what makes it an effective solution for professional teams. Chére explains that NLP refers to:
“ … how one thinks (the nerve system or mind), how one communicates (how you interpret experiences, behaviour etc.) and how we can strategically use this to achieve desirable results.”
Essentially, it is the “technique through which the Coach assists the client in getting from point A to point B,” and is fundamentally based on neuroscience.
The key behind NLP is to ask the right questions that “lead to either confrontation with undesired patterns of thought or the building of new thought patterns.”
So if you’re still confused, think ‘consciously mastering your own mind’ - that’s what NLP is all about.
Here’s the big bold question though… What makes it different from other coaching methods?
Realisations and Revelations
Unlike other coaching techniques, NLP leaves it up to YOU. This may seem daunting, but NLP coaches aren’t counsellors, they aren’t there to give you all the answers or a DIY step-by-step guide to achieving your goals. They rather give you opportunities to steer your own results.
“If it’s not your decision, the change won’t last.”
There’s no such thing as quick-fixes or one-time sessions to set you on a path of success - NLP is a long-term process (but oh-so worth it)!
Let’s put this into perspective with a real-life example:
Take the simple toaster. An everyday object, but one that understands its purpose - if a toaster could be sentient, of course 😉 :
“ A toaster is designed to toast; you know that if you put in a slice of bread, it will be toasted. It has everything that it needs to accomplish its goal. The client’s first step is finding out what it looks like for them to reach their full potential.”
Essentially, the toaster has all the elements to fulfil its purpose - except electricity. In essence, NLP acts like the electricity needed to ignite your full potential. In other words, a gentle push to help you realise what you’re capable of.
Professional vs. Personal
We’ve all heard it before - keep your professional and personal life separate. But what if they’re intrinsically linked?
It is frequently asked whether NLP is a method best used for professional or personal development. In this instance, it is paramount to understand that professional goals don't necessarily only form in the workplace.
As Chére explains, it is “possible to steward your focus to be fully present at home when you are there, and fully present at work when you are there. However, they will affect each other inevitably.”
In a nutshell, your personal wellbeing plays a massive role in your professional capability. Take Stephen Covey’s explanation of the P/PC (Production/Production Capability) balance in his famous book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People:
“To maintain the P/PC Balance, the balance between the golden egg (production) and the health and welfare of the goose (production capability) is often a difficult judgment call. But I suggest it is the very essence of effectiveness.”
So when asked whether NLP is more effective for personal or professional problems the answer is - both.
In Chére’s past experience, “it is very common for a client that came to me for career coaching to spend more time speaking about personal issues since that could be part of the reason they are not succeeding or achieving certain goals at work.”
On the other hand, many people also come in thinking they have personal issues, only to find out they are actually unfulfilled at work. Don’t disregard the other side of the coin!
Let’s Get Down to Business & Balance
A summary so far: NLP can help you change your thought patterns to guide you in achieving your personal and professional goals. Sounds great, but what about businesses - what benefits do NLP Coaching hold for company goals?
“When individuals know why they are working for a company and how it fits into their personal vision and goal for their future, they will be motivated to invest in the vision and goals of the company.”
NLP Coaching acts as a great mediator between employees and Human Resources, resulting in better communication and a streamlined vision for your team.
Implementing these sessions provides a platform to, “find the problems and facilitate the process of change.” Ultimately, the process focuses on, “finding healthier and better alternatives to improve the mental health and growth of the employee and the growth of the company.”
After all, “no employer wants to invest in an individual who has other expectations and new employees don’t want to be left unfulfilled and disappointed simply because they didn’t know what they wanted.”
NLP, therefore, bridges the gap between employer and employees, leaving less confusion and critical gaps in the long-run. For example:
“Employees will only give their best if they benefit either financially, through leave to spend time with family, rewards for reaching goals, or a healthy work environment for example.”
It’s a two-way street, but one that can be aligned with NLP.
Above all, NLP can help create internal BALANCE. Undeniably, a balanced workplace drives motivation. This can then have a further positive knock-on effect on team culture. Another win-win scenario!
Still unsure whether you should try it out and embrace NLP Coaching? We’ll leave a few words of encouragement from Chére here:
“You don’t know what you don’t know. If you have an opportunity to change your life, your relationship with your spouse or kids, your business… Why would you say no? NLP Coaching helps you free the expectation of your future from the grip of your past. It gives you an opportunity to see a limitation as an obstacle with a solution. You will learn to shift around your resources.”
Take the time to help your team and your business will reap the benefits.
Be sure to contact JA. to shape up your company culture, we’ll help you better manage team efficiency through improved practices in communication, transparency and accountability.
The JA. Team